A mentor is someone who has "been there and done that" and inspires you find your own way. Mentorship is a sacred and spiritual process of self-discovery. A mentor shares their own experiences as both beacons of hope and nuggets of wisdom, then they facilitate a process of self-inquiry to help you find your own way.
I've worked with many therapists, coaches, and psychics in my lifetime. Each of them served a very specific purpose and support in my world. Yet, on some level, as I left each one, I was always left wanting for something that they didn't provide.
I endured some really traumatic pain in the months during and after my divorce. I played the game of "find the right therapist" for well over a year. Each one diagnosed me with some "disorder." By the end of the year I had a list of conditions (seasonal affective disorder, clinical depression, panic disorder, generalized anxiety, adjustment disorder. . .) the list went on. None of them really felt right. Rather, with each one, I walked away from the session often feeling more broken than I did when I started the session. There were several times I left the session in tears, so unable to function, that I had to cry in my car for over an hour before I was okay to drive home. More than once, I ended up calling a yoga friend (who is also a therapist) to talk me down off the ledge after a session. At the same time, she also helped me find some tiny nugget of wisdom that I could take away from the session.
During that time, I often found more solace in the support I sought from my astrologer and psychic experts. Whether they pulled tarot cards, analyzed my numerology, or red my chart, they gave me hope for better days in the future, and perspective for what I'd endured. Yet, I often felt frustrated when what they "predicted" didn't come true. Until I realized that their predictions were just "possibles" and in some rare cases "probables" that could change with any flip of decision or change. There are SO many possible outcomes, to predict with 100% accuracy is virtually impossible. Yet, to see the light through the trees when the forest is thick, a psychics perspective is often welcome.
I've worked with coaches of all types: fitness coaches, nutrition coaches, life coaches, professional coaches, etc. The ones who were the most helpful to me sat down and discussed my goals and drew up a specific step-by-step plan for me to follow, and then met with me on a regular basis to hold me accountable to those goals. For example, I got six-pack abs and could complete ten pull-ups at a time. I learned the finer skills of cooking for best nutrition, and I was able to downsize my home and life to live more minimalistically. They all helped me achieve my goals, but somehow my work with them always felt somewhat superficial as their coaching never went much beyond the specified goal or into the greater spiritual aspects of life.
Whether is was a therapist, a psychic, or a coach, I always left feeling like something was missing. Then I heard the Latin etymological definition of EDUCATE, and it made sense.
To Educate is to draw out from within.
All of these professionals were well trained and qualified in their professions and their areas of expertise, but as a result, that was their downfall. Their expertise is precisely why something felt missing to me. They were all putting information into me. Telling me what to do, how to do it, and why I should do it their way. What was lacking was the drawing upon my own innate internal wisdom!
That can't be discovered through any tarot cards or cognitive behavioral therapy. In order to really activate my internal wisdom, I needed a MENTOR. I was craving, yearning, desiring a MENTOR. I didn't want someone to give me the answers. I wanted someone to help me find my own answers. I didn't want someone to tell me what was wrong with me and how to fix it (a therapist), or give me expert information I didn't know, (a coach), or speculate about what might or could or potentially should be (a psychic). I wanted someone to tell me that I had everything inside me to figure it out for myself, and they believed in me to do that. I wanted someone who had figured things out for themselves to inspired me to do the same for myself.
I want to be clear here. There is a time and a purpose for a clinical therapist, and a coach, and a psychic. These professions are all valid and beneficial. I wouldn't be who I am today without the myriad of professionals who served me with their expertise. What I wish I had had through meeting all of them was a mentor, someone to sit with me after each session and ask me the self-inquiry questions to reflect on what the experts had said and how it digested within me and my innate ultimate Truth.
In today's day and age, mentorship is a rare and lost art!
A mentor doesn't say to you "I know the way, follow me." Nor does a mentor claim to be an expert in any specific field or practice. Rather, a mentor is someone who has been through their own hero's journey, and wants to encourage, support, and foster your own growth through your own similar-but-different hero's journey to self-discovery. Through mentorship you will discover deeper truths and wisdoms about yourself.
THERAPY & COUNSELING
Therapists will clinically diagnose you with a mental health disorder or condition (PTSD, bipolar, depression, anxiety, adjustment disorder, etc.). They work with you to help you heal from the deep traumas and tragedies of your life and childhood that manifest as mental health disorders. Work with a therapist is a long intensive process that requires a professional with extensive clinical experience.
a mental health therapist will identify your symptoms and work through a treatment plan to identify and heal from root causes (past traumas & tragedies)
a marriage and family therapist will help couples and families work through challenging relationship issues
a psychiatrist will diagnose your issue and prescribe and monitor pharmaceutical medications to adjust your brain chemistry
As your mentor, I will refer you to a therapist if I see that you have underlying deep mental health conditions that need specific clinical treatment. I am not qualified, experienced, or trained to address clinical conditions that result from deep traumas and tragedies.
A coach is an expert in a specific field who coaches you to attain a specific goal within that field. While cheerleading you towards success and achievement of your goals, they help you stay accountable to your direction and focus.
a health coach would guide you towards a goal of losing weight
a financial coach would guide you towards a goal of budgeting and saving
a career coach would guide you towards a goal of switching or enhancing your current career status.
As your mentor, I will refer you to a coach if I see that you have a specific lifestyle goal you want to achieve. For example, if you are looking to lose 50 pounds and learn about nutrition, I will refer you to a weight loss and nutrition coach who knows more about the specifics of nutrition.
PSYCHICS & SPIRITUAL GUIDES
Psychics and spiritual guides offer you both insight to your core personality and character as well as potential prophecies for your future outlook. They help you to understand the unexplainable and find comfort despite the uncertainties of life.
a minister or pastor provides religious practice to help you have faith and belief in something bigger than yourself,
astrologers, numerologists, and intuitives will give you guiding insight to your personality and character as well as
a medium will help you communicate with spirits, angels, ancestors, and/or pets and animals to receive messages from the other side.
As your mentor, I will refer you to a psychic, astrologer, or spiritual guide if I see that you are seeking answers to existential questions and the unexplained.